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I’m in the process of preparing for my upcoming series “text me” where I answer questions (unedited – straight up, no chaser) from the congregation. A member of my research team sent me the following video that opened my eyes.
Sisters, is it true…if so, why?
C’mon, I can’t wait to hear your responses…
I agree that the numbers are off and perhaps “they don’t make ’em like they used to” (which is sad). I for one am not ready for marriage and children at this time, but eventually plan to have the nuclear black family. Times are changing and very few people are getting married at the age of 18,21, etc. these days. Not only that, women in general have become so independent and career oriented the notion of starting a family has either been delayed or not desired. Maybe subconsciously this stance is taken because the pickings are slim.
This excerpt reads “The major problem for Black women who want to raise children in a family environment is not the quantity of black men available but the quality. While women select mates on various criteria, the minimum is usually that he be employed. Larger economic factors often work against this minimum requirement. Other non-marriage-material men would be those unavailable or under confinement in mental or correctional institutions. The remaining premise is that Black women have fewer opportunities.” So this leaves the 70%. If their anything like me and refuse to settle just to have someone, or not comfortable with the idea of “crossing over”…those numbers will only escalate.
I can only speak for myself, but as a SAVED single Black Woman, I’m merely waiting on the Lord. As He prepares me to be a wife and prepares the man he has for me, I just serve the Lord, and in due season…
But as Telisha said, times have changed. Since women were first allowed to receive secondary education, it has become uncommon for women to marry as young as they use to (I also feel that the advancement of birth control may have something to do with this too). But even beyond that, the rate of divorce had reached record highs in recent years, and I think that people in general (not just women) are opting to remain single (or shack) due to a lack of faith in the sanctity of marriage.
My question is this. Why would they only collect statistics on Black women? What about Black Men? How many of them are single? How many are incarcerated or unemployed?