The Great Facebook & Instagram Outage Lesson: Dig Your Own Unshakable Well

The Great Facebook & Instagram Outage Lesson: Dig Your Own Unshakable Well

In the early 2000s, the board of directors forced Steve Jobs, Apple's co-founder, out of the company. Jobs had been a critical figure in the company's success, having overseen the development of iconic products such as the Macintosh, the iPod, and the iPhone. However, he clashed with the board over his management style and the company's direction, leading to his ousting.

Following his departure from Apple, Jobs embarked on personal reflection and soul-searching. He realized that his mistake could have been relying more heavily on someone else's platform, which had resulted in his being removed from Apple. As a result, he decided to create his own platform, Pixar, a company that would allow him to showcase his unique vision for the future of entertainment.

Pixar initially started as a computer hardware company, but they quickly shifted their focus to developing animation software. Steve Jobs, the founder, recognized the potential of animation to transform the movie industry and went all-in to ensure Pixar's success.

In 1995, the company released its first feature film, Toy Story, a massive commercial and critical hit. Pixar continued producing blockbuster films, such as A Bug's Life, Monsters Inc., and Finding Nemo. I will revisit this story later in the article.

This week's brief outage of Facebook and Instagram served as a jarring wake-up call: the rented digital platforms we've come to rely on for our businesses and online presence are ultimately not under our control.

Click to Post

The Great Facebook Outage Lesson

This week's brief outage of Facebook and Instagram served as a jarring wake-up call: the rented digital platforms we've come to rely on for our businesses and online presence are ultimately not under our control. While undeniably convenient, they can go dark at any moment, leaving us high and dry, scrambling to reconnect with our audiences and customers.

The lesson is as clear as a desert mirage: we must dig our own wells before the thirst sets in. By building a robust, self-sufficient platform that we truly own and govern, we insulate ourselves from the whims and failures of third-party rentiers.

This self-made oasis should comprise several key elements:

  1. A Website You Fully Own: No more renting digital real estate. Your website is your sovereign territory on the internet, where you make the rules and set the terms of engagement. It's your impenetrable home base, unshakeable by external forces.
  2. An Email List Under Your Control: With your email list, you own the direct line of communication with your tribe. There are no algorithms, no intermediaries—just an unbroken pipeline to the inboxes of those who matter most. This connection can never be blocked or disrupted.
  3. An Instantaneous Text Alerting System: In today's age of fracturing attention, reach your people immediately through the communication channel they're guaranteed to see. With your owned SMS systems, you're never accountable to someone else's pipes.
  4. Internal Team Collaboration Channels: Keep your crew connected, aligned, and productive through digital spaces you control and manage. Efficient teamwork and flawless execution are vital competitive advantages.
  5. Streamlined Opt-In and Follow-Up Processes: Effortlessly guide new leads into your world on your own terms. With automated systems under your watchful eye, every prospect can stay caught up when the rented streams run dry.

The lesson is as clear as a desert mirage: we must dig our own wells before the thirst sets in.

Click to Post

By piecing together the different pillars of your self-governed platform, you can avoid being a "digital sharecropper" and subject to your landlords' whims. If the domains you rent fail, you can easily switch to your fully owned domain and continue serving your audience without problems. Let's return to Steve Jobs' story to see how he applied this lesson years later when he returned to Apple. 

He transformed Apple into a self-governed empire by creating iTunes, the Online Store, and an ironclad ecosystem, resulting in a self-sustaining oasis that was unshakable by external forces. 

The moral of Jobs' story is that true visionaries should build their empire on self-reliance and control their destiny by digging their own wells. Don't rent land to build your empire, as it can vanish overnight. Cultivate self-reliance by owning your platform.

Never be caught up with resources when you need them the most. Instead, take the initiative to cultivate a strong foundation that will provide you with the necessary tools to secure your future success. By doing so, you can ensure that your business or audience will continue to grow and thrive.

Remember that self-reliance is crucial in achieving this goal, as it will help you become more resilient in the face of any challenges.

When the rented domains inevitably fail, you can easily switch to your fully owned domain and continue serving your audience from the depths of your well-stocked waters.

Click to Post

If you are ready to take the initiative towards securing your future success, start cultivating a strong foundation today. Don't wait until you are caught up with resources when you need them the most. 

Remember, self-reliance is key to becoming more resilient and achieving your goals. So, take action now and invest in yourself to ensure that your business or audience continues to grow and thrive!


How You Start Makes a Difference

How You Start Makes a Difference

In the 2000 British Open, Tiger Woods, renowned for his exceptional golf skills, faced the historic course of St. Andrews. As he stood at the first tee, the importance of his initial shot in setting the tone for the entire tournament was palpable.

With remarkable focus, Woods chose a straight path, avoiding the notorious bunkers and roughs that symbolized life's challenges and missteps. This deliberate and skillful choice was more than just a strategic play in the game; it was a profound lesson in life.

Tiger's decision to aim true and clear of the hazards echoed the vital principle of beginning with intent and precision. His triumph in that tournament, characterized by his initial direction and unwavering focus, beautifully illustrates that in life, much like in golf, how we start can significantly impact our journey.

Tiger Woods' masterful start at St. Andrews, steering clear of obstacles and focusing on his goal, mirrors the essence of our own paths in life, setting a perfect segue into our exploration of how the principles of golf can enlighten our approach to personal growth and success, as we delve into the deeper aspects of rebuilding and resilience in our lives.

The Direction You Choose Determines The Destination You Reach.

Just like in golf, the way you begin affects everything that follows. Rebuilding isn't just about creating something new; it's about correcting past mistakes. The first step isn't just a move; it's a mindset. A good start in rebuilding sets the tone for success, just like a good tee shot in golf. Whether it's life, relationships, or faith, how you start makes a huge difference.

Rebuilding isn't just about creating something new; it's about correcting past mistakes. The first step isn't just a move; it's a mindset. 

Click to Post

Truth is The Foundation of all Rebuilding.

The Stockdale Paradox

The Stockdale Paradox is the mindset of holding two seemingly contradictory beliefs simultaneously: maintaining unwavering faith in the ultimate triumph and success while facing the brutal realities of the current situation.

It was named after Admiral James Stockdale, who was a prisoner of war in Vietnam for 7 years. He emphasized the importance of confronting the harsh truth and being determined to overcome challenges, all while maintaining hope and faith in a positive outcome. The Stockdale Paradox highlights the need for resilience, adaptability, and a balanced perspective under challenging circumstances.

Connection Fuels Compassion and Compels Action.

Identifying with the need means feeling the weight of what's broken and owning it. It's not just about understanding the problem intellectually but feeling it emotionally. When you identify with the need, it becomes personal, and the motivation to act becomes stronger. This step moves you from detached observation to passionate participation.

Identifying with the need means feeling the weight of what's broken and owning it.

Click to Post

Taking Ownership is The Birthplace of Change.

Taking responsibility means moving from "someone should fix this" to "I will do something about this." It's about shifting from blame to ownership, from excuses to action. Personal responsibility is empowering—it's recognizing that you have a role to play in the rebuilding process. This step is about commitment, deciding that you will be part of the solution.

Be Patient - Rebuilding is a Journey, Not a Sprint.

Just like in golf, you won't hit a hole-in-one every time. There will be setbacks and challenges. Embrace each step, knowing that every effort contributes to the final goal. Celebrate small victories along the way. They are signs of progress. Patience doesn't mean inactivity; it means persistent, consistent action toward the goal.

Rebuilding is not Just for You; It's For All Who Will Come After You.

Your efforts to rebuild aren't just about improving your own situation; they're about leaving a legacy. When you rebuild something in your life, you're setting an example for others to follow. Your courage to start right, evaluate honestly, take responsibility, and step out of your comfort zone inspires others to do the same. The walls you rebuild today will become the shelter for others tomorrow. Your journey of rebuilding is a testimony of hope and resilience that will encourage many.

Patience doesn't mean inactivity; it means persistent, consistent action toward the goal.

Click to Post

In conclusion, just as Tiger Woods demonstrated at St. Andrews, the initial direction we choose in life, like a well-aimed golf shot, sets the trajectory for our journey. The lessons from the golf course are profoundly applicable to our personal and professional lives. It's about avoiding the 'woods' of distractions, focusing on our goals, and understanding that the path to success is a mindful blend of strategy, patience, and perseverance.

As we embrace these principles, we not only rebuild what's been lost but also forge a legacy that inspires and guides others. This journey of rebuilding and growth is not just for our benefit but for all who follow, creating a ripple effect of positive change and enduring resilience.

The lessons from the golf course are profoundly applicable to our lives. It's about avoiding the 'woods' of distractions, focusing on our goals, and understanding that the path to success is a mindful blend of strategy, patience, and perseverance.

Click to Post

Let's carry forward this mindset of careful beginnings and steadfast focus, remembering that every shot in life, just like in golf, counts towards shaping our ultimate destiny.

Today's post was inspired by my recent sermon "How You Start Makes a Difference." I emphasized how the initial steps we take to rebuild areas of our lives significantly influence the trajectory and outcome of our personal growth journey.

If you missed the sermon, you can watch a replay on the church's YouTube channel. During this message I share more insights about making an honest assessment, taking responsibility, getting uncomfortable, community support, and ultimately using your story to help others. Check it out for more motivation on starting your transformation journey.

Stepping into the Unknown: How Waiting Can Lead to Life’s Greatest Adventures

Stepping into the Unknown: How Waiting Can Lead to Life’s Greatest Adventures

In Atlanta, in the present day, Marcus and Tanya, a professional couple, found themselves at a crossroads. They had to decide whether to leave their stable jobs and pursue a venture they were genuinely passionate about. At this moment, they experienced a mixture of uncertainty and excitement for the possibilities ahead.

They spent long nights discussing, planning, and sometimes doubting. This period of contemplation was their stable in Bethlehem, a seemingly ordinary moment that held the promise of a transformative future.

As they decided to leap, they embraced the unknown with faith and hope that this was the path meant for them.

From Marcus and Tanya’s journey, we learn that, much like Mary and Joseph, our most significant leaps forward often come after periods of quiet reflection and anticipation.

Their leap into the unknown is a testament to the most profound changes in our lives, often beginning with a pause, a moment of quiet determination before the promise of a new and transformative path unfolds.

Waiting with Active Anticipation

Have you ever found yourself in a period of waiting? I know I have. It’s a time of uncertainty and anticipation for something significant to happen. And let me tell you, it can be quite a challenging season filled with doubts and questions. But what if I told you that waiting is not a passive state but an active opportunity for preparation and expectation? Let me share the powerful insights I recently gained from my sermon on this topic.

The Pause Before the Promise

During my sermon last Sunday, I discussed the significance of pausing before making a promise. I drew connections between the Bible's stories of Marcus and Tanya and Mary and Joseph.

Like the latter couple, Mary and Joseph experienced moments of doubt and uncertainty but also found solace in periods of quiet reflection and anticipation. This led me to the realization that significant breakthroughs frequently occur after moments of silence and contemplation.

So, what does that mean for us?

The waiting period should not be seen as a delay but as a time of preparation. During these moments of silence, we can find strength for the next step. Just like the grandmother I mentioned in my message who could smell the rain before it arrived (anticipation), the promises of God may not always appear or feel obvious, but they will be fulfilled in due time. We need to hold onto that hope and trust in God’s timing.

Significant breakthroughs frequently occur after moments of silence and contemplation.

Click to Post

The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough

Another important lesson from the sermon is that before experiencing a breakthrough, there is often a breakdown.

I highlighted the story of Mary and Joseph’s journey to Bethlehem, where they encountered numerous challenges and setbacks. It would have been easy for them to give up or take matters into their own hands, but they persevered through the breakdown.

I can relate to this on a personal level. In my own life, I have encountered insurmountable breakdowns and difficulties. These moments led to frustration, doubt, and sometimes even anger towards God.

Before experiencing a breakthrough, there is often a breakdown.

Click to Post

However, I encourage everyone to shift their perspective and see these breakdowns as opportunities for growth. Through the process of being broken down, our faith is refined, and we learn to rely on God’s strength rather than our own.

When brought to a place of brokenness, we can genuinely appreciate the breakthrough that comes from God’s hands. In times of struggle, we develop a deeper understanding of God’s faithfulness and learn to praise Him in all circumstances. It’s a humbling but necessary journey.

When brought to a place of brokenness, we can genuinely appreciate the breakthrough that comes from God’s hands.

Click to Post

God’s Perfect Timing

Reflecting on last Sunday’s message, I am reminded that God’s timing is perfect, even when it feels painfully slow.

There was a 400-year period of silence between the last book of the Old Testament and the birth of Jesus. People may have given up hope during that time, but God was working behind the scenes, preparing for the perfect moment to send His Son into the world.

Reflecting on my life, I realize how often I desire immediate results and become impatient when my prayers seem unanswered. However, I must trust the clockmaker, who sits above time and sees the bigger picture. God knows the perfect timing for each of His promises in my life. It’s a reminder to surrender control and have faith in His plans.

God’s timing is perfect, even when it feels painfully slow.

Click to Post

Wait Actively, Not Passively

I have concluded that waiting is not a passive state. We are called to engage actively in our waiting period. Instead of complaining or becoming bitter, we should use this time to prepare ourselves and expect what God will do.

I took this message to heart. While waiting, I have committed to sharpening my skills, deepening my faith, fortifying my spirit, and praying new prayers. Waiting has become an opportunity for personal growth and development. Rather than being idle, I actively engage and prepare myself for the breakthrough that is coming.

I recognize that patience isn’t just about waiting; it’s also about maintaining the right attitude. Complaining and becoming bitter will not bring about the desired outcome. Instead, I strive to maintain a positive mindset and trust that God’s plans are excellent and perfect.

We are called to engage actively in our waiting period. Instead of complaining or becoming bitter, we should use this time to prepare ourselves and expect what God will do.

Click to Post

Conclusion

As I navigate through seasons of waiting, I am learning to embrace the pause before the promise. I am reminded that breakdowns are a natural part of the journey toward breakthroughs, and they serve to deepen my faith and reliance on God. Moreover, I hold onto the truth that God’s timing is perfect, and my waiting is not in vain.

Waiting with active anticipation means persevering, maintaining the right attitude, and trusting God’s faithfulness. It is an opportunity for personal growth, deepening faith, and preparation for the blessings yet to come. So, let us embrace the waiting periods in our lives and actively engage in the process, knowing that God is faithful and His promises will surely come to pass.

If you want to watch “The Pause Before The Promise” in its entirety, you can watch it here.

Who’s Really Stealing Your Money: The Subscription Economy: Savior or Scam?

Who’s Really Stealing Your Money: The Subscription Economy: Savior or Scam?

🔍 Who's Really Stealing Your Money: The Subscription Economy: Savior or Scam? 💸

Imagine a world where every convenience, every luxury, every tool you need is just a click away. 

This is the story of Sarah, a young professional in the bustling city of Chicago who embraced the subscription lifestyle wholeheartedly. 

She conveniently bundled everything in her life into neat, monthly packages, from her morning coffee to her favorite streaming service.

The Transformation: A Closer Look Under the Hood

But as Sarah's life got busier and her subscriptions piled up, she noticed something unsettling. The simplicity and convenience she once cherished started to feel like a burden.

Her bank account dripped like a leaky faucet, with each subscription taking its tiny but persistent toll. She started questioning the actual cost of these services.

The Revelation: The True Cost of Convenience

One evening, Sarah sat down and tallied up her monthly subscriptions. The total was staggering. She realized that what started as a means to simplify her life had stealthily complicated it. 

She began to see the subscription economy in a new light—not just as a savior of time and effort but as a silent scam, quietly draining her resources.

Sarah's story is not unique. 

It's the tale of many in today's subscription-driven world, where the allure of convenience masks the hidden costs. Through her journey, we learn a valuable lesson: in pursuing ease, we must not lose sight of the true cost of our choices. 

This blog post delves into the intricate world of the subscription economy, exploring its benefits and pitfalls and questioning if this is the future we really want for our consumption patterns.

Are subscriptions really taking over our lives?

From entertainment to software and even car ownership, everything comes with a monthly bill now. Let's dive into the dark side of the subscription economy and explore how it's shaping our world.

The Allure of Monthly Bills

How did we go from dreading monthly bills to actually enjoying paying for subscriptions? Companies have cleverly rebranded the perception of recurring payments into a symbol of modern convenience and accessibility. 

This shift, fueled by effective marketing and the allure of 'unlimited access,' has led consumers to embrace subscriptions. But beneath the surface, are we getting our money's worth?

Rising Cost and Decreasing Value

The initial charm of content subscriptions often fades as costs climb and value diminishes. Consider Netflix: While it boasts a broad selection, the quality of offerings is mixed, with an abundance of low-grade 'filler' content. 

This scenario of quantity trumping quality leaves subscribers feeling shortchanged and questioning the actual value of their monthly investment.

How did we go from dreading monthly bills to actually enjoying paying for subscriptions? Companies have cleverly rebranded the perception of recurring payments into a symbol of modern convenience and accessibility. 



Click to Post

Music Industry's Shift

The music industry's transition under the subscription model is a stark example of this economic evolution. In the 1980s, album sales were a significant revenue stream for artists. 

The introduction of platforms like iTunes and now Spotify revolutionized music consumption. While Spotify's flat fee model offers value for money, it also presents challenges, notably in how it impacts artists' earnings.

The Ownership Trade-Off

The shift from ownership to subscription is particularly evident in the software industry. A prime example is Microsoft Office, where users no longer purchase software but subscribe for continuous access. While offering the benefit of regular updates, this change comes at the expense of actual ownership and leads to perpetual payments.

Conclusion

As we journeyed with Sarah through the bustling streets of Chicago, we witnessed firsthand the double-edged sword of the subscription economy. This blog post has illuminated the allure and the pitfalls of our modern subscription-based lifestyle.

While promising unparalleled convenience and variety, the subscription economy also bears hidden costs and implications. From Sarah's experience, we learn that what begins as a tool for simplifying life can subtly evolve into a complex web of financial and emotional burdens.

I invite you to reflect on your subscription habits. Start by evaluating your monthly subscriptions, just like Sarah did. 

While promising unparalleled convenience and variety, the subscription economy also bears hidden costs and implications. From Sarah's experience, we learn that what begins as a tool for simplifying life can subtly evolve into a complex web of financial and emotional burdens.



Click to Post

Ask yourself: Are these services genuinely enhancing your life, or are they unnecessary drains on your resources? 

Consider cutting down on subscriptions that don't add significant value to your daily life. 

Remember, in the pursuit of convenience, it's vital to remain vigilant about the actual cost of our choices. Just like Sarah, you have the power to redefine your relationship with the subscription economy. 

Embrace this opportunity to make informed decisions that align with your lifestyle and values. Let's not let the promise of convenience overshadow the importance of mindful consumption.

Here's to your success!

Clarence E. Stowers, Jr. 

See All of my Links @ Linktree

Ask yourself: Are these services genuinely enhancing your life, or are they unnecessary drains on your resources? 



Click to Post

How to Make 2022 Your Best Year Ever

How to Make 2022 Your Best Year Ever

I know. I know. I know. For some, 2020 and 2021 were an emotional rollercoaster. 

You've been through a lot this year, and you're not sure what to expect in 2022.

You experienced many disappointments. But this too shall pass, and it's time for a fresh start in 2022. We've experienced drastic changes this year, and our bodies and minds have reacted with increased anxiety levels - but with the proper coping mechanisms, you can get through it.

Everybody is usually trying to reinvent themselves at this time of year. We've all gone through too much to cave in to such pressure, whether from the outside world or ourselves. 

Today's article, "How To Make 2022 Your Best Year Ever" will help you stay positive while things around us change. By following our tips, we'll make sure your New Year's resolution of making 2022 your best year ever stays intact throughout the entire year.

Let's get started!

It's Hard to Go When You Don't Know

The pandemic that began in 2019 has lasted much longer than anyone anticipated. There have been many different predictions about how long it would last, but none have proven accurate.

One of the challenges we face is that we still do not know how to get rid of the virus. There were vaccines, but they haven't wiped out COVID. There have been many variants that have emerged, sending us right back into a state of panic.

While some may feel hopeless in the face of this epidemic, I believe that we must continue to fight. We cannot give up because we do not have all the answers. We must find new ways to combat this virus and save as many lives as possible.

Furthermore, the negative cycle of over-expectation and disappointment can take a toll on our mental health. Repeatedly being let down can lead to emotional trauma and depression.

Devastation like this, plus lack of financial security for many people who lost jobs, has led many industry leaders to believe we're in the middle of a depression, like when war rages.

While some may feel hopeless in the face of this epidemic, I believe that we must continue to fight. 



Click to Tweet

Something is Better Than Nothing, Right?

The aftermath of tragedy has affected how some people can enjoy life. People who were out and about before the pandemic are now taking caution to ensure their safety. Still, they may feel down because they can't enjoy life to its fullest.

For one, we're putting pressure on ourselves to have fun at a time like this. We're "shoulding" ourselves, according to Silvia M. Dutchevici, psychotherapist and founder of the Critical Therapy Center.

"Shoulding" implies I should go out and be having a good time; I should want to see my friends. Our "shoulds" may not be what we want.

Many people find that they are exhausted after the holidays. This may be because they have spent a lot of time entertaining others. After Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve, some people don't even want to keep up their social connections.

It is hard to be with others and remain focused. Because we haven't interacted with others for so long, we have to reset our approach after a traumatic event and whether or not we want to. There's also the seemingly never-ending COVID anxiety that always lurks in the background.

Because we haven't interacted with others for so long, we have to reset our approach after a traumatic event and whether or not we want to.



Click to Tweet

Here's How You Can Make 2022 Your Best Year Ever

Manage Your Expectations

Can we as individuals do anything to feel better? Fortunately, we can.

The first is to manage expectations. Or, as I often say, "control what's controllable. Since the pandemic, life has changed in many ways. One thing that is important to understand is that there is no going back to how things were before.

Trying to recreate something you lost is likely to lead to disappointment. However, if you look ahead, there are opportunities for growth and different connections that may even be better than what came before.

Trying to recreate something you lost is likely to lead to disappointment.



Click to Tweet

Live in The Moment

Next, make it a habit to live in the moment. Human beings are naturally uncomfortable with the uncertainty of the world. However, planning for six months or a year from now may lead to disappointment later because we still don't know how things will shake out.

Instead of thinking of consequences that may or may not happen in the future, think of what you have right now. Think about how far you've come from where you were one year ago, six months ago, two weeks ago.

Instead, try to stay calm and not worry about what will happen in the future. What will happen is unpredictable. We need to learn how to do this because it will be important in 2022.

Instead of thinking of consequences that may or may not happen in the future, think of what you have right now.



Click to Tweet

Rest is a Weapon That Allows You to Reset

Finally, remember rest is a weapon that allows you to reset.

There's a reason we liken the pandemic to the zombie apocalypse. It sounds like something from a horror movie, and that's because it feels like one too.

The world is exhausting, and people are tired as we get ready to start the third year of a pandemic. We can barely keep up with work, let alone anything else in our lives; there's no time for creativity or innovation anymore.

Resting allows resetting through reflecting.

Taking the time to reflect on the good and bad moments of 2021 is essential. It allows us to celebrate our accomplishments and learn from our challenges. It's crucial to remember that no year is without ups and downs, so even though 2021 may have been tough, there were still plenty of happy moments. By acknowledging what we've been through, we can give ourselves the space to process it all and move on stronger than ever.

Taking the time to reflect on the good and bad moments of 2021 is essential. It allows us to celebrate our accomplishments and learn from our challenges.



Click to Tweet

The year 2022 presents many opportunities while also causing us to change the way we do things. We must take care of ourselves and our families and stay strong during this process. Hopefully, by following these tips, we'll be able to make 2022 a year to remember.

Should I Follow My Head or My Heart: 5 Questions to Ask Before Making Decisions

Should I Follow My Head or My Heart: 5 Questions to Ask Before Making Decisions

Should I Follow My Head or My Heart: 5 Questions to Ask Before Making Decisions

Should I Follow My Head or My Heart: 5 Questions to Ask Before Making Decisions

I fondly remember my children agonizing over which college they would attend. We created spreadsheets, lists of pros and cons, prayed, and even burned candles while wearing sackcloth and ashes (just kidding).

Let’s face it; making significant decisions is not easy. It’s exhausting.

For those struggling with making decisions, how do you know when you’re listening to your heart or you’re listening to your head?  

Let’s face it; decisions are emotionally painful.

The word decision is of Latin origin. It means to cut away from the past.

If you’re married, it means cutting away from being single.

If you have made people (children), it means cutting away sleeping.

If you are a business owner, it means cutting away from security. 

That’s why most decisions are painful.

To make a decision, we have to confront our fears and doubts head-on. When making decisions, we often think in black and white terms: right or wrong, good or bad. But the truth is, most decisions are neither right nor wrong. They’re simply choices. And the more critical the choice, the more difficult it is to make.What happens when the battle within you is between what your heart believes and your brain dictates and what your inner wisdom tells you? So this is a question about whether you make decisions with your heart or head, and how do you know?

Before the pandemic, I made the majority of my decisions with my head. I logically weighed pros and cons, considered others’ opinions, and made choices that I thought were wise. I now realize that this habit caused me to miss out on joy and happiness.

For example, before the pandemic, I would have never considered taking a spontaneous trip with my family or friends. I would have thought about all potential risks and what could go wrong. Now, I know that those types of trips bring me a lot of happiness, and I’m more likely to take them because my heart is telling me that the risks are worth it.

Why? Time is a non-renewable resource. Once lost, it’s lost forever.

When you make decisions with your head, you’re usually trying to avoid pain or gain something. You want to be safe, and you want what you believe is the best outcome. However, when you make decisions with your heart, you often look for something different. Something that might be a little risky, but that has the potential to make you happier.

Today, I trust my instincts and emotions more than my intellect. 

You can analyze the fine print and contracts using your head. But when it comes to making a decision, look inwardly and check it against your heart and soul. 

So, how do you do that? 

According to Mel Robbins, here are five questions to ask when making decisions.

5 Questions to Ask When Making Decisions

  1. Is the decision you’re about to make help you develop your future or expand your life’s possibilities? If it’s a yes, then no matter how terrible it seems, the decision is a yes.
  2. Will this decision restrict, inhibit, or silence you? If so, the answer is no. No matter how easy the decision is, no matter how safe that decision is. The answer is no.
  3. Will this decision expand or limit my voice?
  4. Will this decision open the door to new possibilities or build a wall that prevents progress?
  5. Does it raise my voice, or does it silence me?

Remember, there’s always a short-term and a long-term impact of the decision.

When making a decision, it’s essential to think about that decision’s short-term and long-term impacts. The short-term consequences are the things that happen immediately after the decision. The long-term effects are the things that happen down the road, sometimes many years after the decision is made.

It’s essential to think about both of these impacts when deciding because they can be very different. The short-term effect might be exciting or seem like a good idea at the time, but the long-term implications might be very different. It’s crucial to weigh all of the pros and cons of a decision before making it, so you can be sure that you’re making the right choice.

Do you agree or disagree?

I’d love to hear how you make decisions?

More From This Category

How to Draw Closer To God Through Prayer

How to Draw Closer To God Through Prayer

When you know precisely what you want to accomplish and how your goals seem realistic, it's easier to achieve objectives like 10 pounds lost, debt eliminated, and a new career when they're concrete. Specifics provide a reference point and instruct you on what to do...

read more
Continuing the Legacy: The Next Chapter of Mars Hill Revealed! 🎁

Continuing the Legacy: The Next Chapter of Mars Hill Revealed! 🎁

Discover the transformative chapters in Mars Hill Baptist Church’s six-decade journey. From innovative community outreach to a new era of dynamic leadership, Part 2 of our series unveils how Mars Hill continues to evolve while staying true to its roots. Don’t miss the introduction to ‘Mars Hill Anywhere,’ our exciting hybrid church model.

read more
Never Again Return to What Hasn’t Worked

Never Again Return to What Hasn’t Worked

Depending on who you ask, success looks different and has many definitions. Although some define it differently, successful people have common trains. According to Dr. Henry Cloud, author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again, Successful people have...

read more

Comments

Get 1% Better Everyday!
Copyright © 2024 Company Name