by Clarence E. Stowers | Feb 12, 2010 | Leadership, Self-Leadership, Success
There are 604,800 seconds in a week, and every one of them matters (how you use them is up to you)!
As I age gracefully, I’m learning to appreciate and use the limited time I have. Twenty years ago, I began to set aside an hour each weekend and ponder this question: What is the purpose of my life? Here’s a book I recommend to get you started. Afterwards, I would take notes & craft sentences that describe my life’s purpose. I encourage you to try this – it really works!
Next, ask yourself how each part of your life (work, friends, family, hobbies) align with or relates to that purpose. Again, write it down. Are you spending your time on things that will help you achieve your purpose? If not, you know you have to make changes. When your actions are at odds with your goals, you need to make the slight, necessary adjustments.
This may seem like a simple exercise, but very few people do it. The truth is you probably already know your purpose and goals. But you may have pushed them off to the side. Or you may not have aligned your daily actions with your long-term goals. Doing this exercise will help you to do so.
A few minutes of quite reflection can give your life the clarity and sense of purpose you may lack. To keep your day-to-day choices in sync with your life’s purpose, take a moment to consider your purpose before you make any major decisions or take on any new responsibilities. It will help you remember the precious importance of every second.
Are you up for the challenge? Do you know your purpose? I’d love to hear about it!
by Clarence E. Stowers | Jan 29, 2010 | Empowerment, Self-Leadership, Success
What makes people like Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, and Lance Armstrong so great?
We think we know: Each was a natural who came into the world with a gift for doing exactly what he ended up doing. Guess what, I found the secret to their success and because I want you to succeed, I’m ready to share my discovery with the entire world. I’m about the let you in on a secret that has the potential to revolutionize your life!
Shhhh…Lean Closer….
Here it is:
THERE ARE NO SHORTCUTS TO SUCCESS. PERIOD!
Nobody is great without hard work!
Researchers have identified what they call the ten-year rule when it comes to becoming a world-class performer. In 2006, Fortune Magazine published, “What It Takes to be Great” which coined the phrase “Performance Principle.” The Performance Principle says that it takes a long time to be an overnight success. Furthermore, the author goes on to say, “Even the most accomplished people need around ten years of hard work before becoming world-class…” This pattern is so well established researchers call it the ten-year rule. In short, what they and others have discovered: There are not shortcuts!
The best people in any field are those who devote the most hours to what the researchers call “deliberate practice.” It’s activity that’s explicitly intended to improve performance, that reaches for objectives just beyond one’s level of competence, provides feedback on results and involves high levels of repetition.
Fortune magazine gives this example:
Simply hitting a bucket of balls is not deliberate practice, which is why most golfers don’t get better. Hitting an eight-iron 300 times with a goal of leaving the ball within 20 feet of the pin 80 percent of the time, continually observing results and making appropriate adjustments, and doing that for hours every day – that’s deliberate practice.
Have you ever been tempted to take shortcuts? Did you? What were the results?
by Clarence E. Stowers | Jan 25, 2010 | Book Reviews, Communication, Decisions, Empowerment, Leadership, Self-Leadership, Success
How many times have you met someone and immediately formed a favorable or an unfavorable opinion about them? Honestly, we’ve all made what I’d like to call, “snap-judgments.” Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking is written by Malcolm Gladwell on how we make decisions about people (and many other things) without full knowledge.
The author describes the main subject of his book as “thin-slicing:” our ability to gauge what is really important from a very narrow period of experience. In other words, spontaneous decisions are often as good as—or even better than—carefully planned and considered ones. Gladwell explains how an expert’s ability to “thin slice” can be corrupted by their likes and dislikes, prejudices and stereotypes.
Whew, that was pretty heavy.
Take a deep breath…relax…are you still with me?
Here’s what Gladwell is saying: People rarely make decisions as a product of long deliberation. They make take weeks to announce a decision but often make the decision in minutes, perhaps seconds.
People do not gather data to make a decision;
they often gather it to JUSTIFY their decision!
They are not accumulating understanding; they are seeking comfort and support. Most decisions are made, and then justified, rather than the other way around.
Therefore, that leads me to one obvious implication: “First impressions are really lasting impressions.” The first impression, with startling frequency, is also the FINAL DECISION.
HERE’S THE POINT:
The first thing to plan for is your first impression.
Why, once a mind is made up, seldom does it change.
Has anyone judged you based on their first impression?
Have you ever judged someone based on your first impression?
by Clarence E. Stowers | Jan 5, 2010 | Accountability, Empowerment, Goals, Leadership, Success
The week between Christmas and the New Year has been officially declared as the most “unproductive” times of the year. While surfing the web, I ran across Michael Hyatt’s excellent blog, which inspired me to think long and hard about what I want to accomplish in 2010.
In order to make my resolutions stick, I decided to employ Michael Hyatt’s four strategies found here. Therefore, let it be resolved:
- That I will read through the entire Bible by December 31, 2010 using YouVersion’s Chronological plan as my guide (started Day 1 yesterday).
- That I will lose fifteen pounds (current weight: 217) by exercising a minimum of 3 days per week with a minimum of 20 minutes of cardio during each exercise session. I will accomplish this by July 30, 2010
- That I will continue to resist the lure, draw, and undeniable seductiveness of late night unhealthy snacks like candy, soda, cookies, & other fattening foods and replace them with fruit.
- That I will finish the first draft of my new book by June 30, 2010.
- That I will write at least three posts per week on my personal blog, where I share my thoughts/ideas on leadership from an urban perspective and some general life musings.
So let it be noted. So let it be done. And please give me a swift kick in the rear end if you see me getting off track.
What are your goals & have you gone public with them?
by Clarence E. Stowers | Jan 4, 2010 | Book Reviews, Books, Success
As I mentioned in my previous post, I absolutely love reading books! Consequently, I’ve read a lot of books in the last 10 years. There are many books that I consider to have greatly been a part of literally transforming my life. There were many great books that didn’t make my list that are classics and didn’t meet the criteria that I considered.
Additionally, since I have so many recommendations, I’ve decided to break them down into the following categories: Church Growth, Theology, Christian Living, Leadership, Self-Improvement, Business, Sociology, and African-American Studies. I will devote blog space to cover each category in subsequent posts.
Here we go:
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by Clarence E. Stowers | Dec 4, 2009 | College Life, Current Affairs, Empowerment, Leadership, Success, Vision
Fraternity is commonly defined by Webster as the state of being Brothers, a brotherly relationship within a student organization formed chiefly to promote friendship and welfare among the members.
The opening of the school year, 1905-1906, found at Cornell University, Ithaca, New York, a group of students distributed in the various colleges of the University, who were desirous of maintaining more intimate contacts with one another than their classroom study permitted. They often met in groups during the Autumn of 1905 and talked of the possibilities of closer contacts among themselves. Different ones among them took the lead in calling these meetings, which were informal in ever detail.
After several meetings, on December 4, 1906 those in attendance decided to become a fraternity and Alpha Phi Alpha was born. It came as an evolution through trial and struggle. It was not spontaneous, but gradual in its growth. Alpha Phi Alpha has not always been the great fraternity that it is today. Its founders, however, were always great men with keen vision, undaunted courage, indomitable fortitude, and unparalleled tenacity.
There were seven men who founded Alpha Phi Alpha in 1906. Each of these men were destined to play a highly significant role in the formative years of our great fraternity. The members of Alpha Phi Alpha have decreed that the Founders be designated as JEWELS of the Fraternity. The Founders (Jewels) of Alpha Phi Alpha are as follows:
Jewel Henry Arthur Callis
Jewel Charles Henry Chapman
Jewel Eugene Kinckle Jones
Jewel George Biddle Kelley
Jewel Nathaniel Allison Murray
Jewel Robert Harold Ogle
Jewel Vertner Woodson Tandy
The original seven who remained steadfast to the idea of a Greek-letter Fraternity, during the months of uncertainty, did not waiver in their effforts to bring about the realization of their vision. Therefore, I salute all the men who’ve crossed the burning sands and proudly call themselves “Alphas.” Happy Birthday dear brothers & always remember:
Manly deeds, scholarship, & love for all mankind…
Onward & Upward – ’06
Brother Clarence E. Stowers, Jr.
Jackson State University
Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.
Delta Phi Chapter – Spring 1987
“The Naughty 9”
