The beauty and challenge of pastoring an urban, thriving, and large congregation are the number of singles who attend.
Our church is filled with people who’ve never been married, recently divorced, and widows. Since I counsel them all, most are eager to get back into the game before they’re healthy and ready. Since I’m a pastor, I approach dating from a biblical perspective and having a relationship with God is a given. However, since I like to keep it real and relevant, I decided to strip away the layers and give it to you – “straight up – no chaser.”
If you’re dating…considering dating…I advise you to NEVER break this rule for anyone:
If a man or woman doesn’t like you for who you are, just stop.
Why? If you have to change who you are to attract, or keep them, you are cheating both yourself and them.
Whoop, there it is (Man, I’m showing my age). What are your thoughts? Sound off?
Clarence, I totally agree with your rule. My number one rule is don’t even think that I’m going to sleep with you unless we’re married. You would be surprised how many “Christians” really believe that having an intimate, sexual, relationship is ok before tying the knot. Not me. Been there, done that and saving myself for the one I’ll spend the rest of my life. Thank you Lord!
Hey Pastor Brenda,
Thanks for stopping by & responding to today’s post!
I’m not surprised how so many Christians are tempted/pressured to
become intimate before marriage. Some believe they have to give in to
keep the relationship. What they don’t realize is how they settle
instead of waiting for God’s best.
Take care!
I agree Pasor. I love me now so I dont want to be anyone else. I just want to be the best me possible..
Hey Montell,
Thanks for stopping by & responding. Its easier to be ourselves isn’t
it? Why be a cheap copy when you can be a great original. Keep pushing
man!
Been there (changed for them), Done that and now done with it!
There should be billboard with this on it!
Hey Yanni,
Thanks for stopping by & commenting on today’s post. Your statement:
“Been there, done, that, & done with that” is classic. Now that’s
billboard ready! Thanks for sharing & I’m praying that someone
listens.
Great, great, great, love it, love it, and love it!! Thank you for this. I was dating a man, who attempted to change me, stating I was to head strong (although I never made him feel less than) and also tried make me feel bad for my accomplishments, needless to say after I finished eating the dinner he made and my glass of wine, I kicked his butt to the curb. Of course he’s regretting it but its wayyyyyyyyyy to late for that, next caller………