by Clarence E. Stowers | Dec 15, 2011 | regular
Ed Stetzer recently compiled a list of 48 questions to ask yourself for honing your personal accountability. Unfortunately, each year we hear of preachers, politicians, and athletes who compromise their integrity and make life-ruining mistakes. Sadly, many of those mistakes could have been avoided with the right accountability systems in place.
For all 48 questions, you will need to check out Ed Stetzer’s original post. Here are my top 15 personal favorites:
- Have I spent adequate time in Bible study and prayer?
- Did the Bible live in me today?
- Am I enjoying prayer?
- Have I given priority time to my family?
- How do I spend my spare time?
- Am I a slave to dress, friends, work, or habits?
- Do I insist upon doing something about which my conscience is uneasy?
- Have I been with a woman anywhere this past week that might be seen as compromising?
- Have I been exposed to sexually alluring material or allowed my mind to entertain inappropriate thoughts about someone who is not my spouse this week?
- Have any of my financial dealings lacked integrity?
- Have I secretly wished for another’s misfortune so that I might excel?
- Have I damaged another person by my words, either behind their back or face-to-face?
- Is there anything that has dampened my zeal for Christ?
- Is Christ real to me?
- Have I been completely honest with myself?
What are some of your accountability questions?
by Clarence E. Stowers | Nov 24, 2011 | regular
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
Thanksgiving Day has evolved over the years as an important holiday. It is not just about feasting and shopping. It is about showing one’s gratitude for the blessings that we are showered with.
What is Black Friday you might ask, It’s the day after thanksgiving, the kick off of the holiday shopping season, a day you will find great deals, and lots of people. If you have never done a black Friday before you will need to have a plan in place. You can’t control your job, investments or home value, however, you can control how you spend.
Therefore, before you hit the stores (you may already be out there by the time you read this), ask yourself the following questions:
Do I really need this? There’s a big difference between needs and wants. How to differentiate? Well, if you can’t afford to live without something, if it’s a means to helping you function in society, it’s a need. If you can shrug it off, it’s a want. If you don’t need it, don’t buy it!
Ask: If I buy this will it make my family better, smarter, or more prepared?
Can I even afford it? The old-school rule is true: If you can’t pay cash or pay your credit card off at the end of the month, YOU CAN’T AFFORD IT!
Ask: Can I pay the entire amount in cash?
Do I have an emergency fund established? In life you should expect the unexpected, and this is why you need an emergency fund. Financial emergencies can come in the form of a job loss, significant medical expenses, home or auto repairs or something you’ve never dreamed of. The last thing you want to do is be forced to rely on credit cards or a loan which could simply compound the problem. Most experts agree that you should keep between three and six months worth of your living expenses set aside in your emergency fund (3-6 months living expenses).
Do I have at least $2,500 in my emergency fund?
Am I using God’s tithe to shop? SELF-EXPLANATORY…No need to elaborate on this!
Have you given your 1st 10 percent to God?
Is it really worth the hassle? Thanksgiving means many things to different people but for most people, the holiday of Thanksgiving is synonymous with festive meals, parades, football, family and friends, and, of course, turkey. For many, it’s also about spending time together, catching up and enjoying one another’s company.
Relax & enjoy your family and friends!
by Clarence E. Stowers | Mar 15, 2010 | Communication, Empowerment, Leadership, Self-Leadership, Success
We all have blind spots. You can’t see them! We can’t avoid them and probably will never get rid of them! Seems obvious, but YOU aren’t in the best position to see your blind spots or to know how they are affecting the people you lead and the relationships you’re in.
Here’s what I’m learning as I lead:
Your greatest strengths can also do damage to your team dynamics. You tend to think that everyone values the same things you value and that everyone is good at the same thing that we are good at.
NOT TRUE!
Over the next few weeks I invite you to join me as I read Strength Finder 2.0. Strengths Finder 2.0 is the follow up to Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton’s Now, Discover Your Strengths. The book includes a revamped version of the StrengthsFinder test that shows you not just what your top five strengths are, but also how you rank in the rest of the 34 strengths from Buckingham & Clifton’s model.
I recommend that you get the Strength Finder’s book. It’s a great tool to have on your shelf. After reading the book and completing the Strength Finder survey, I will post my results and encourage you to do the same. I hope this discussion will encourage you to become more aware of your own blind spots. Please join me on this amazing journey.
Are you up for the challenge?
by Clarence E. Stowers | Mar 3, 2010 | Accountability, Excellence, Self-Leadership, Success
In his book The Winner Within, former NBA coach Pat Riley offers some insights on the danger of compromising excellence.
He writes:
Being a game player is a fiction some people use to excuse themselves from working as hard as they should. People who think they are game players are what coaches call “floaters.” They float along on a cushion of talent or sheer physical size and strength. They don’t see what all the fuss over concentration and work ethic is about until players of lesser talent start scoring in their face, quarter ofter quarter, simply because they are more in tune with their game…Eventually every team has to learn that excellence isn’t a destination. It’s a process that must be continually improved (pp. 150-151).
Of course, NBA players and coaches are committed to excellence because they want to win a championship. These can be good motives, but as followers of Christ, the motive that drives us to excellence should be a desire to please God. The one who will give us our final reward. Everything we do should be done with a conscious awareness of His presence, a realization that he is watching.
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, Colossians 3:23
The Apostle Paul reflected that such awareness should prompt us, regardless of our field of endeavor, to “work at it with all [our] heart.” Men and women who follow Christ aren’t “floaters.” They give their best effort all of the time, knowing that there is never a circumstance during which the one they follow is not with them, urging them on to their finest.
Are there situations in which you “float?” If so, Why?
